Obituary Examples: How to Find the Right Words

Obituary Examples: How to Find the Right Words

Obituary Examples: Finding the Right Words for Someone You Loved

Sometimes the hardest part of writing an obituary isn't knowing what facts to include. It's the first sentence. Staring at a blank page while grieving can make even simple words feel out of reach. Seeing a few real examples, organized by who you're writing for, is often the fastest way to unstick yourself and find your own words.

Why Examples Help More Than a Template

A fill-in-the-blank template can make an obituary feel like a form. Reading a few real examples instead tends to loosen something. You start noticing what you'd keep, what you'd never say about your own person, and that reaction is usually the fastest route to your first sentence.

Obituary Openers for a Parent

  • "She raised four kids on a schoolteacher's salary and never once made it feel like a sacrifice."
  • "He measured a good day by whether everyone at the table had seconds."
  • "Our mother believed the answer to almost any problem was a full pantry and an open door."

Obituary Openers for a Spouse or Partner

  • "They met at a gas station in 1974 and argued about directions for the next fifty years."
  • "He was the calm one. She was the one who made sure things actually happened. Together they were unstoppable."
  • "Married sixty-one years, and still holding hands in the last one."

Obituary Openers for a Sibling or Friend

  • "She was the friend who showed up with a casserole before you even called to tell her."
  • "He was the guy every friend group needs: the one who remembered birthdays and never let anyone pay for their own coffee."
  • "My brother could fix anything with duct tape, a joke, and absolutely no instructions."

Obituary Openers After a Sudden Loss

Sudden losses often call for a gentler opening than a long biography. It's okay to keep it simple.

  • "We are still learning how to say goodbye to someone we thought we had more time with."
  • "No one was ready for this, least of all the people who loved him most."

What to Do Once You Have an Opening Line

Once you have a line that feels true, the rest tends to follow more easily. From there:

  • Add the basic facts: full name, age, dates and places of birth and death, survived by and predeceased by.
  • Include one or two more specific memories or qualities beyond the opening.
  • Close with service details and where to send flowers or donations, if applicable.

If You're Still Stuck

Some families find it easier to talk through a few details out loud rather than write from a blank page. Memorygram's free memorial page includes an AI writing assistant that takes a few basic details and turns them into a first draft of the obituary, which you can then edit into your own words. There's no cost and no account required, and the obituary becomes part of a permanent memorial page family and friends can visit and add to.

Start with a first draft, not a blank page. Create a free memorial and let Memorygram help you find the words.

[Create their memorial]

Back to blog

Customer Reviews

Overall rating: 4.9 / 5 from 833 reviews.

Such a great idea! I’m so glad we found this and am collecting my parents’ stories, in their own word, before it’s too late. I can’t speak to the quality of the book since we haven’t printed it yet, but the platform and process have all been really easy to use. Love it!

Memorygram Legacy Book - Last Minute Father's Day Sale Price

My 86 year old father LOVES this. We are still in the process with weekly calls which he loves because even though he can’t find his keys some days , his memory for things going back decades is unrivaled and he will talk for 45 minutes about such detailed things from his past! it’s quite fascinating. We work together to come up with the questions that he would like to answer. We have enough questions to last quite a long time. I don’t have any idea how we’re going to finally be able to edit and put it in a book, but we are enjoying the process. For him it’s perfect to be able to just talk and for it to be recorded.

Memorygram Legacy Book - Last Minute Father's Day Sale Price

Very nice platform and features. Support has been very helpful when experiencing issues with features. They are responsive and have taken care of everything I have uncovered. Needed an order that I couldn't place on the site, and they were very helpful in getting it adjusted per my request.

Memorygram QR Medallion: Includes Virtual Memorial & Voice Feature

Customer photo review of Memorygram Legacy Book

I already completed my book for my children and siblings it was a great experience that I started in June and needed for Christmas. Memorygram customer service , Kris in particular took care quickly of my many questions and concerns, and rushed it through well before Christmas. When my wife said she wanted to try to write a memoir in chapters instead of questions I immediately suggested MemoryGram. She is still just getting started but finding it the perfect solution.

Memorygram Legacy Book

My mom really loves it and finds it extremely easy to use.

Memorygram Legacy Book

Customer photo review of Memorygram Legacy Book

I captured many of my college fraternity stories using Memorygram as a 50th Reunion gift for my Colgate DU Brothers. It was a huge success and the guys loved the crazy memories presented in an attractive hard cover book! Well done!!

Memorygram Legacy Book

I’m starting the process, but I’m so excited. This will be a fancy version of my grandma’s original family history! (The Rose Tree).👵🏻🌹🧑‍🧑‍🧒‍🧒📖✍🏻 /JN (Jan/13/26)

Memorygram Legacy Book

This was an extra tag I’d purchased after I realized I should’ve gotten two. I could not figure out how to order one on the website so I went to Facebook and sent a message. I got a very prompt response with the help I needed. Within minutes I was able to place my order. I was very impressed and happy with the customer service. I’m also very satisfied with the memorial site I’ve been able to create for my son.

Memorial QR Dog Tag Necklace: Includes Virtual Memorial & Voice Feature

My mother absolutely loves this, thank you for such a thoughtful, amazing memory maker that I can pass down for generations to come to my children. What a gift!!!!!!

Memorygram Legacy Book

I have ordered books from Memorygram three times. I have found the pages of the books as well as the hardcover to be of extremely high quality, made to last for generations. The website is very user friendly and the customer service exceptional. I would highly recommend this company to anyone wishing to leave a legacy.

Memorygram Legacy Book

I found the Memorygram experience both easy and interesting. It was interesting in that the more I got into answering their question set, the more I remembered events in my life that gave me better insight to respond, It is a very solid product that lets you essentially design the book as you would like your life and experiences presented. The result is a keepsake that can be passed to future generations in a format which is easy for someone to read through. I would highly recommend it to anyone who wants to express their experiences and thoughts, either with a partner or individually.

Memorygram Legacy Book

Customer photo review of Memorygram QR Medallion: Includes Virtual Memorial & Voice Feature

I recently had a bench dedicated for my son. The plaque is nice, but I was very happy to see these medallions advertised. I immediately ordered one for the bench. The adhesive seems to be very strong and should last. My only issue has been uploading photos and a video. I figured out the photos but have not had luck with the video. Overall, I love this product and have suggested it to friends.

Memorygram QR Medallion: Includes Virtual Memorial & Voice Feature

Store owner replied: Hi Pamela! Thank you so much for your kind words. We are truly honored to help preserve his legacy for you and your family. Our team is reaching out to you via email now to help get those videos uploaded so they can be included and cherished for years to come.

Really needed help organizing pictures . The concierge service did creative placement and enhancements that really add to the book.

Memorygram Concierge Service

Great company and great product. Thank you for your support.

Memorygram Legacy Book

I ordered two, one for my daughter’s monument and one to have in our home. I love these and the customer service I have received from Danielle has been superb. She answers my emails the same day and has resolved any issues promptly. Best customer service ever!

Memorygram QR Medallion: Includes Virtual Memorial & Voice Feature

I adore my dog tags. I made the memorial in honor of my dad, and the tags did not disappoint. Anytime I wanted to show my friends and family, the QR code worked wonderfully. Any problem that I might have had was resolved very quickly. Only thing is I wish you could add more pics at a time but otherwise it is fantastic.

Matching QR Dog Tag Necklace: Includes Virtual Memorial & Voice Feature

I’m enjoying the memories myself, as well as preparing to share them with my five boys and their families

Memorygram Legacy Book

Well, my daughter and I purchased it for my husband for Father's day. He has a lot of history and stories from his military experience, work as a postal executive and just life in general. We are a blended family. so this is something he can pass down to his grandchildren and great children...it's just an amazing way for him to share his life with his family, young and old.

Memorygram Legacy Book

Customer photo review of Memorygram Legacy Book

Hello Memorygram, I just want to say that things are going very well with the Memorygram tool. It’s not only easy to use, but it’s also deeply meaningful. It allows me to preserve, organize, and reflect on moments that matter—stories that might otherwise be forgotten. It’s been a powerful part of my personal journey, especially as I work to honor family history, culture, and hard-earned wisdom across generations. Thank you for creating something that respects memory and empowers legacy. Gratefully, Murf

Memorygram Legacy Book

I lost my daughter a year ago. I was working on this for a couple of days to add pictures and videos of her life. It's a great idea to keep your loved ones alive. Thank you for creating this tool.

Memorygram QR Pet Medallion: Includes Virtual Memorial

I am writing my own memoir stories instead of using the questions provided (although they are quite good), and am enjoying the experience. I am having difficulty adding photos to my stories, though. Any help would be appreciated. Your site is easily navigated and easy to understand, so thanks for that. S Pope

Memorygram Legacy Book

Store owner replied: Hi Sarah. Thank you so much for your kind words! We designed Memorygram to be easy for every age and tech level. We’ll email you right away with simple steps for adding photos to make sure you are set —happy writing!

I love the heart I ordered for my son’s grave stone. I have not yet gotten to add Dominic’s memories to the QR but I can’t wait to share his memories and his life. The heart plaque is very well made and quality material. I also ordered the dog tag necklace. I love wearing it in memory of My Dominic.

Memorygram QR Medallion: Includes Virtual Memorial & Voice Feature

Customer photo review of Memorygram QR Medallion: Includes Virtual Memorial & Voice Feature

This has helped me with my grieving process. I could out this out there and anyone who wanted to know about my son could scan the memory gram and know al about him. Everyone has enjoyed being able to learn about Ethan and what he was like when he was here on earth.

Memorygram QR Medallion: Includes Virtual Memorial & Voice Feature